“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” – Abraham Lincoln

Even though there are plenty of people quoting this expression I still love it! I apply it to everything I do in my life. Therefore, in our case we have to understand who we are and why one may need us?

I would start with answering the following questions:
– What do I do for living? Do I want to change it?
– What are my hobbies? Do I need a new hobby?
– What makes me happy? And what makes me sad?
– What would I want to change in my life? And what things I will never give up?
– Who are my friends and relatives?

Why Should We Learn Ourselves?

When you answer these simple questions honestly you will sum up your life, and all your further steps will be much easier.
Though, why is it so important? The answer is simple – the girl you are looking for has to suit you and your life. Also, there are things you can change for her. But there are always things you’ll never give up. Hence, she should be ok with that. Otherwise, nothing will work out.

Moreover, she has to share with you the things that make you happy. For example, she may like the same movies, go to the same concerts or she may prefer the cuisine you like as well.

When you know yourself, you will certainly know who you are looking for and will find the right girl for sure.

Also, prepare yourself. Make yourself interesting for friends, colleagues and others.

One more crucial step that requires careful attention.

We even made a separate post on “How to pick the right online dating website“. We strongly recommend checking it.

Once you know yourself and once you define your needs you are ready to pick the right online dating website. Some men may be surprised, but the sites are all different. Some of them are like a marketplace where you can find anything you want. Others are like specialized niche stores.

For example, Match.com was made for those who want to communicate globally. And VictoriyaClub is for American – Russian relations.

Online Dating Sites Features

Different websites may have different features. For example, if you badly need a visual contact you definitely need a website that has a video chat option. Moreover, if you want to send a present to the girl you like, the website may have this service included. Above all, if you want to meet a girl from abroad you may want to have a simultaneous translation feature.

The fundamental rule is to test all relevant websites. Why? Because you will always feel like you checked not all options. Maximize your chances. As long as the dating website fits your needs and has positive feedback you should try it anyways.

It is absolutely not a bad thing to have accounts on different dating websites. You never know which one works better for you. Define your budget and split it among your accounts. Test them within, let’s say, 1-2 months and keep those that work better or are more comfortable for use.

We made a separate chapter for this stage. Since most of modern dating websites have a profile matching algorithms (based on successful cases) it is crucial to create your profile properly.

First of all, make sure to provide accurate information about yourself. This way your profile will be in the right category and people will see the correct information about you.

Second of all, make sure to provide the most important information about yourself. Your profile has to give an idea who you are and what you are looking for on this website.

It is not bad if you check the other profiles. You can build your own profile strategy, like “I am different from others!” or “I am as cool as that guy!” or “I am the same as others”.

But the main thing is that your profile has to demonstrate you as the individual, and nobody else. It is the first impression about you and it is important in order to find the right girl.

So, you’ve registered your account and you’ve created your own profile. Now it is a right time to find the right girl for you.

Majority of men that succeeded on online dating websites recommend to consider profiles of the girls that the system offers you first. Those are the profiles that match you. As it was peviously mentioned, the profile matching algorithm is based on successful cases. It means that there were people in the past with similar profiles, that successfully built their relationships online.

So, what you want to do is to check these profiles first. There is a high possibility that you can find very interesting girl for you that will match your expectations.

How to start?

Once you check the profiles and once you pick those that you like, you may begin a communication. There are no specific techiniques to start. Most of men recommend just to be yourself. Be “regular yourself”. Pretending causes confusions. Also, don’t judge a book by its cover. Everybody has to have a chance.

The other tip from experienced guys is don’t be too pushy and don’t rush. If you want to find the right girl and not to scare her away, the communication has to be casual. The things you discuss have to bring either pleasure or useful information for you and her.

Of course, there can be a situation when you clearly realise that you do not fit each other. When you gave the 2nd chance and it did not work out – just move forward. There are plenty of other girls. The statistics shows that you have to talk to at least 10 girls before you find the right one.